The Power Of Positivity

The power of positivity

This a one of my more intimate posts, about having a positive outlook, even in the darkest times.

Hitting my thirties has made me become more aware of my emotional feelings. 

The realisation that I became a pro at hiding my emotional feelings for many years, brought on what I call emotional wokeness.

This emotional wokeness was kinda overwhelming.

Think of it like someone turning the volume up in your brain, to point that you can’t hear any external noise.

This led to some particularly hard times of struggle as I battled mental health issues. I will be posting a blog article in the near future on my struggles with mental illness.

One stage of my emotional wokeness was being realistic. I think that people generally try to pursue an unrealistic goal of eternal happiness, let’s be blunt – this doesn’t exist.

I realised that being happy doesn’t mean that everything is perfect, it actually means that you have decided to look beyond the imperfections and you have an acceptance of life and everything it may bring you – the good, the bad and the mundane.

I believe that being realistic contributes to a positive mindset. Positive thinking is extremely powerful and helps us navigate through the ups and downs of life.

Positive thinking can improve our overall happiness and health.

This is a selfie I took, in the midst of my emotional wokeness. 

I look happy, but I was a fraud (like many of us painting on a face, that we know others expect to see).

My days were generally spent exploring my dark thoughts, but taking a break to smile filled me with dopamine, serotonin and the endorphins my bloodstream was crying out for. 

Smiling is powerful.

My thoughts on achieving a positive outlook

🔸 Be realistic with yourself.

🔸 Back yourself and your choices, sometimes you may it get wrong but that’s ok, because those mistakes are learning and building blocks. Stopping yourself from growing by blocking your own path is self-sabotage.

Self-sabotage is a bitch and is always negative.

🔸 If you have occasional doubts and stop to evaluate your decisions, this is healthy.

Remember that, you learn nothing from life if you always think you are right.

🔸 Sometimes the people you idolise can be demotivating if you use them in the wrong way. Why do you idolise them? Whatever your reasons, just know that you should never aspire to be them – you can’t (and that’s a good thing).

🔸 If you try hard to be something you are inherently are not, you will always feel inferior. Instead, use the qualities that you admire in your role model/idol to make a better version of yourself.

There is only one of you, so why try to be someone else? You are unique and that’s great.

🔸 You’ll never know until you try. What are you waiting for?

🔸 Your identity is NOT what you do, your hobbies are NOT your personality.

For example; You are not a powerlifter, you are a person powerlifting. A person with unique qualities, that make up your identity.

🔸 Stress can be a good thing. It pushes us to achieve things, it’s like a kick up the backside.

When stress becomes chronic, this isn’t good, this normally happens when you start to believe your negative thoughts.

🔸 When looking back to ‘good’ or ‘better’ times that you may think are lost, don’t try to rush to recreate those moments, but instead focus on what you can do to get closer to those ‘good’ times again.

Take your time.

🔸 You are ALWAYS much stronger than you think.

I will leave you with those thoughts for now.

If you are reading this and you are going through a rough time – do what you can to reach out to loved ones.

This community is also here for you, I hope you feel that you can use it. Feel free to drop me a direct message to reach out (@admin).

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